An Interview with Dad (long post)
11:44 AMSo, there was this post I saw people shared on Facebook about interviewing your parents by Brendon Burchard before it was too late. And, since I'm already 19, come to think of it, let's do it! Even though at first it was a bad idea, but then, I knew I'd made the right choice. My advice to people out there, just do it. You will get emotional but have it recorded and it will be with you forever. You get to learn a lot, and listen to the things that they had probably never mentioned or rarely talked about. Things that were sensitive to them, or what makes them happy. The small stuffs or the big stuffs. Whatever :) I'd skipped some of the questions prepared, and just went with the flow.
Anyway, here is the interview:
Bold = Me
Normal =
Daddy
Colour = Mommy
First
question, what comes to mind when you think about growing up in Megong, Kedah?
Make you a simple person, simple minded
person and also you will be more genuine. That’s all.
Second
question, what did you love to do as a kid, before high school? Whatever you
can remember, as long as you are before Form 1, 13 years old.
Go and play in the paddy field, catching
fishes. What survey are you doing?
Third
question, what did you love to do in high school?
Okay, I like to kacau girls. (Is this recorded? Haha) Reading
article or materials that I liked, military articles with the focus on jet
planes. Playing badminton with friends, hang around with my four buddies doing
crazy things which all the youngsters will do. Competition representing school
in badminton, St. John, socializing basically.
Fourth
question, what did you remember most about your teenage years? The most vivid
one, the clearest one?
My first girlfriend HAHAHA. There are so much
happenings, I kinda remember a lot. Hmm… Getting caught during my high school
lo, go to school at 10 AM. Getting caught for not going school lo. Hahaha. One
I remember the most is it was raining and I decided to skip school because it
is raining OR I cannot go to school because I was earning something as a
living, catching fishes how to go to school. Are you playing with me?
Working in Hotel Royale, first time I knew
about prostitute. I was asked and approached by a non – uniform police officer
to identify the owners of some cars. And I met an accident while going back by
motorbike after working in hotel, after sending back Jenny. Her father didn’t
fetch her, and we were working part time together. I was using the motorbike
given by JR, that stupid Honda, number is 3268. I was alone, riding back to
Megong, no streetlamp, very dark. And I hit a big, construction wood and I
flipped. I hurt my leg, my left thigh and my uniform was torn. Go home, the
second day before work, I asked my sister to repair the uniform because the
uniform wasn’t mine, it belonged to the hotel. Injured, see doctor, put
medication, bai ka (limped leg) for
many days, but still have to work. It was painful every time I shower.
Fifth
question, this one will be emotional and sensitive but, what did you remember
about mom?
She was washing clothes at the back and I saw
her underwear. Yeap, I’m telling you the truth, she was my mother and she
didn’t care. She was wearing sarong and her legs were opened, sitting down.
That was the last I remembered about her.
So, what
was most important to her? Anything.
My mother was family oriented, like my mommy
lo.
So is that
all? About your mom?
I’m trying to remember… Yeah, I remembered
her voice a bit. I forgot what she was saying, but her voice sounded like Ye Yi
Li like that, very nasal voiced. A bit, but not heavy. She coughed a lot.
*Sigh* before she died, she was at Alor Setar GH, I was at home. My second
brother went to get a bomoh, a Malay
bomoh. Which until today I still think he is a conman, but I can’t prove it. He
did telepathy, my God. He acted like he was my mom in front of all the
brothers, 4 of us, sisters weren’t allowed. Only males. Erm… He acted like that
particular moment, what my mom was doing in Alor Setar GH, and it matched. It
matched cos third sister is in GH.
Can’t say anymore, I’m gonna cry.
I’m serious. He showed him holding his leg,
like mom. After that, it was at Megong. He went to back and suddenly behaved
like a monkey, like a Monkey God if you believed in that. Fall onto his hands
and legs, rushed to the back of his house, behind the toilet. Very dirty and
smelly, we followed to see what he was doing. Then he used his hand to dig the
place, which in my life I will never do it. It’s literally shit and dirt and
next to the toilet, a sewage storage. It was so smelly and dirty and he found
one package of thing. For me, I suspected that he was the one that buried it.
But it doesn’t look like the place has been people dug, so how you explain
that? In the packet got a few things, I forgot. But one of them is hair. Yeah,
got hair. I was Standard 6 or 5. He opened the thing and showed it to us, that
was when the spirit got into his body. But when he was awake, he actually smell
his hand haha, then he showed us the packet, got the hair and some other
things. Then, he said those hair was my mother’s. So, he said my mom was
haunted by evil spirit, by someone who wanted to make us difficult, by people
who wanted to revenge on our elder brother. My elder brother lose a lot of
money and ran to Penang so owned people a lot of money. So, other people can’t
get the money and they hired a bomoh to frame our family, and the victim was my
mother. So you believe don’t believe, up to you lo.
So, how
much did you guys pay the bomoh?
I have no idea, it was my second brother that
did the payment. And I don’t exactly believe this sort of thing despite my
young age because I read a lot of military things. I was a scientific person
since young.
Okay.
Moving on, question seven is, what do you remember most about your dad?
Ahh… That one I remembered a lot. Hmm… The
most vivid one is the jokes actually. It was removed. My father and I make a
living. I make his breakfast. In the morning, he will go out early when I’m
still asleep. But before he goes, he will take a stick and knocked the ceiling
of the living room, where I’m sleeping in the second floor. Our house was built
in wood. There will be a tremor on my back to wake me up, to indicate that he is
going out. So, he go out to wet market to buy fish and veggies to sell in the
sundry shop. My job was to take out the fishes, prawns and anything sales
leftover from the previous day that was frozen in the refrigerator. To take it
out and arrange it out in front of our shop and let it melt. It was 7AM
something, so by 9AM plus the frozen should already melted, so people can buy.
It was all old stock stuff. So one day, being a young kid, I didn’t do. I
opened the shop, I sit there and begin to slumber. When my dad came back, only
did I realized that I haven’t take out the frozen fishes in the fridge. I was
thinking, ‘I’m dead this time’.
So, I played a trick on my dad. When he came
back and stopped the motorbike, I shouted at him to look at the street opposite,
which is the main road, there was an accident. He looked over and I quickly
went to the fridge to take out the leftovers. I thought that I could fooled
him. He saw it and he laughed at me, then he told the neighbours. ‘Look at my
son, he is so mischievous. Try to lie at his daddy’.
Then. Fast forwarded to the event I
remembered the most about him: before he died. Basically, it was just skin and
bone. Nothing else. No muscles, he can’t move. His face looked exactly like
skeleton, it was just skin and skull. Everyone came home, he didn’t die yet. We
all could see the tears in his eyes, rolling down his face. Zero movement, the
only thing you know was his chest moving up and down, meaning he was still
breathing. Annie was rushing back with her husband. Everyone told him that
Annie is coming home. *long pause of 2 minutes*
So he stayed until Annie came home. 15
minutes. 15 minutes. He cannot see
her already, his eyes are closed and Annie put her hand on his chest. Everyone
was around, young to old. And we all waited until Annie burst into tears. Which
meant his heart stopped.
Yeah, I remembered that.
That means
Annie’s husband saw your father before?
Of course, the first time he saw my dad was
at Subang Airport when they came back from London. That was the first time in
my life to sit on an airplane, can’t remember what year. We sat in the plane
with Jiu Jiu, which was my mother’s brother, my eldest sister and my papa. 4 of
us, 4 ‘Ah Ngau’. We came to KL from Alor Setar, I’m still surprised by how we
checked into our flight and sat on an airplane. Annie was flying halfway from
London, she was in the sky already only then we took our flight from Alor
Setar. Let me see what happened.
It was a memorable day. Papa actually decided
to take me, the youngest ma. In the plane when we landed in Subang, my fourth
sister was holding her bags and luggage like everyone wanted to rob her. It was
damn funny. Then, we took a taxi to the airport, which Annie’s flight will land
in the middle of the night. And these 4 stupid ‘Ah Ngau’ actually waited in the
airport, I also dunno what we were doing in the airport. Then when she landed,
Annie’s husband’s family also came. 2 groups of people, with only four of us
but her husband’s family members were a lot. Next thing we knew, Annie cried
and told Papa that she won’t be joining us back to Alor Setar, she will be
joining her husband in Melaka. Papa was disappointed. And we met Annie for only
half an hour, probably less than that. Then, she gave me 2 big bags of peaches,
which are overripe. Then, bye bye already.
We took a taxi from Subang airport to the
train station in KL. Next thing I know, I’m already in the train, eating
peaches. The train is the one that can sleep one, with bunk beds. I slept at
the upper part and Papa slept at the lower bed. Eldest sister and Jiu Jiu was
sleeping at the other compartment. Because I don’t always sleep at night, so I
ate the peaches. I ate a crazy amount, maybe 20? I gave to Papa, but Papa don’t
want. He said, “Yeee.” So I ate a lot, hand was dirty and I went to the toilet
to wash my hands. Then, I went to sleep. The train stopped and move at many
town. You know lah, train very slow one. THEN, somehow life is special. In the
middle of the night when I woke up, one of the stops the train stopped.
Actually I will wake up and looked out the window to see the first few towns,
but then I got tired. However, this time I woke up. I pulled out the curtain
and I saw ‘Tanjung Rambutan’. A small town. I was young and I had no idea what
was Tanjung Rambutan. Only years later I know that Tanjung Rambutan is a place
for crazy, psychotic people.
That’s life.
That’s my daddy lo. Oh and one thing I
remembered about him was he would sit on his motorbike, number is 2612. Always
fetched me to play badminton when I used to represent school. He will sit on
the concrete bench, next to the badminton court and watched me play badminton
with friends. Then, he will laugh when we played funny and one particular day
of sending me for badminton, when we were on our way back, we stopped at the
junction reaching Megong. We witnessed an accident. A lot of people in the
middle of the junction, then there were brain matters and blood on the road. We
didn’t take a good look and went home, 500m from Megong. When we reached home
only we realized, the guy who died was Mr See Chai Lai. He was our relative and
also our neighbour. Many people died at that same junction.
[Totally out of topic] And that same junction
is the junction where I suspected there was a ghost sitting behind me on my
motorbike. Suspect, I can’t prove it of course. That was years later after I
worked in the hotel, I stopped at the same junction, red light. I was the only
person on a motorbike at 11PM something, finished work ma. Suddenly, the back
seat of my motorbike, number 3268, sunk down, as though someone climbed up on
my motorbike. The entire junction was nothing, no cars, no humans. So what
climbed behind me?
Let’s skip that.
Haha. So I rushed home, scared already and
used my hand to feel my back but I didn’t feel anything. Before I reached home,
I’m already shouting for my second brother’s name. Then, he came down and
opened the door for me. I had to make a living, my salary was RM180 per month.
And, with tips given by others, I’ll earn more and every cent will be put into
my Maybank counter at the end of the month, into my saving account apart from
my daily meals.
Okay. So
moving on and skipping some questions already. If grandparents have a message
to you and their grandchildren, what do you think it will be?
Be educated. Be a good person.
Moving on
from Kedah. Let’s talk about how you meet mommy and knowing she is the one?
Ha. She meet me not I meet her. Erm… Let me
see… How I meet her? Wow, it was dramatic. You have to start with how I got
into Buddhist Association. I’m a man of no religion, I don’t believe in God,
never. Never believe in religion. But what happened was I have a singing
partner, we always go sing together cos we stayed in the same hostel. He
studied Mathematics and his name is Lim Beng Hock. He was a Buddhist and the
Buddhist Association official guitarist, which had nothing to do with me. We
were friends so weekend, a whole gang of us would go to Kajang and eat noodles
together. Then, we sing karaoke all night in the hawker centre the whole night.
He knew that I could sing very well, then he also knew that I disliked to join
religious thing. One day, the UKM Buddhist Association need to perform in KL, so
the activities need a lead singer. Somehow they don’t have a lead singer, and I
was stronger invited to be a lead singer. I refused but he told me that I could
sing any way I liked. So, because of friends, I went to the first session and
that’s how Ho Siew Hoon came into the picture. She was in the choir group, the
backup singers.
My God,
Mommy sings?!
Now you know, oh my god. That’s why her
singing very failed. Erm… There was about 20 ladies there, but I couldn’t be
bother because I went for my friend.
Fast forward…
No lah, you singing already which year
already… the first time we met was at Tanjung Malim. You went singing in the
front.
No lah. Anyway, I later joined the camp to
Tanjung Malim. That’s how I got more contact with Mommy, but contact only. There
are so many girls, she is not the only one. Then, third year. I became the
stage director for Pesta Tanglung 10.
After that camp, I sent you a postcard
because you fetch me to the bus station ma. Daddy so kind to send me. Then, I
send a postcard to say thank you ma.
I got motorbike that’s why I send you ma.
Then, I mong cha cha got a postcard from a girl.
I still got proof one ah, we still keep
that post card.
Show me the postcard hahahaha. After that,
she came back and I was the stage director. There was a lot of committees and
one night, after meeting about the preparations and coordinations, Mommy belong
to the protocol committee. I will visit all the committee meeting and the
meeting will finish at 11PM in the campus. So, it’s not unusual for guys to
send girls back to their hostel. So there will always be a lot of girls who
want me to send her back, Mommy is one of them.
Eh, I didn’t asked for it!
So, she was
secretly listening upstairs…HAHAHAHA
HAHAHAHA.
Eh, he purposely want to send me one. He
chose me despite so many girls.
Because she is from Sarawak, to us, Sarawak
people stay on the trees one. So, we are helping her! We guys got motorbike ma.
Eh, I also send a lot of girls back.
Now only you tell. Haiya.
Eh, it’s normal for guys to send girls home.
Or else what, other girls faced the danger ah? And we were the directors, we
have to play our roles to make sure of everyone’s safety.
How you
know she is the one leh?
He invited me to go out makan, but we
used our own money ah. Makan dinner, cos everyone go back already holiday.
So what happened was come holidays, she
didn’t go home. I also didn’t go home because I need to collect donation for
the event Pesta Tanglung. We need to do fundraising and a lot of planning. So I
know she didn’t go home, one day I met her and she asked me to dabao food for
her. I said no, if you want me to dabao for you, you have to do it yourself. If
you want, you have to eat together. Only next day, only we went out to eat
dinner together. Like that lo. We never had actual contacts, I’m a busy guy.
So what
actually made you proposed to her?
Hahaha. I didn’t propose. It was a
circumstantial marriage.
Meaning?
I came out to work already, I was working for
Mead Johnson, my first job while she was still at UKM.
Propose already? You didn’t talk about
the part where we were together in the third year and fourth year. We went to
UPM and do stuffs. And visit using your motorbike.
What happened was on the 1st April
1991. So, towards the final quarter of the year, after I worked for 7 – 8
months, the Marketing Manager, Mr. Sim, announced to everyone saying that if
company hit target then we will have a chance to go to Europe of 10 days trip.
So, I also wanted to join. I told the Marketing Manager I wanted to join, but
he told me that I’m not entitled because I didn’t work for one year yet. But I
told him that I really wanted to go, then he gave me a condition that I have to
hit 130% target sales then only I can go. So, I worked really hard. Finished
the year I hit my target, come January, company started to book ticket. We have
to submit our names, passports and everything for them to book tickets. I
didn’t have passport so I have to quickly go make one. After submitted the
detail, then I told my girlfriend in UKM that I’m going to Europe. Then, she
said she wanted to go but have to pay. So I quickly told Mr Sim but he said
cannot. Only family members such as sisters or wife were allowed, girlfriend
cannot. So I told her cannot but she really wanted to go. So, I said the only
way to do it is to marry me. That’s how we got married. She became my wife and
then we went to Europe. No romantic will you marry me and such.
Like that lo.
Haiya, you think your daddy is the
romantic type ah? He won’t do those kind of kneeling down and propose kind of
thing. We all are practical people. Actually you should talk about the times we
had during your third and fourth year. Like that time, you picked me up using
motorbike from Sarawak.
I don’t recall any of those anymore. Ah yeah,
when she came back from Sarawak and I had to go picked her up from the airport,
that one teruk man. I took motorbike from Bangi to Subang airport, her flight
supposed to land at middle of the night, around 1.30am. So, I have to be at
airport by 12am, those days we don’t know the time. I don’t have GPS, nothing,
just look at signboard and I can reach the airport with only two helmets. So,
1.30am flight delayed to 4.30am.
My god.
Imagine how many hours I was in the airport?
Imagine how bored I was got nothing to do? Those days airport where got
shopping one. I walked around, doing nothing, go toilet and washed my face.
Lied down until finally the plane landed. Later I saw some trees and flowers,
so I went to pick up all the flowers since got nothing to do. Went and asked
for a rubber band from a random stranger. Plucked all the flowers and tied it
up to give to my girlfriend. That’s what I did.
Vandalism…
Then, when she came down, get the bag, hop on
the motorbike, I gave her the flowers. She didn’t appreciate at all, seperti
kera diberi bunga.
I GOT NO HANDS TO TAKE ALREADY MA!
She threw the flower away. You see, my god
right?
EH, HE SAID HIMSELF THAT NO HAND TO HOLD JUST
THROW AWAY, SO I THREW IT AWAY LO.
Put
somewhere in your bag or something lah!
Now you know your mommy ah? She has no idea
how long I’d waited for her, spend so much efforts to arrange the flowers and
tie it together. The moment she sat on the motorbike, she already attempted to
throw it away. So, the flower only lasted for one minute while it took hours to
prepare.
Did you
feel heartbroken?
No lah, I don’t feel anything. We are not
material people, we don’t look at materials. Materials come and go. That’s why
her birthday I never gave flowers unlike other husbands.
How did you
choose this career and what’s your favorite part of this career?
Originally I wanted to become a doctor but I
didn’t get it. Being an extrovert, I like sales. Sales can make money and I
don’t have money and I wanted money. So, I enjoyed talking, convincing people.
That’s how I ended up in sales. I think I got 4 job offers. Before graduate, I
applied for thousands of jobs, went for hundreds of interviews including
Singapore, flew to Singapore just for the interview with British American
Tobacco. I chose Mead Johnson was because it was based in Alor Setar. That’s
how it all started.
So, what
did you believe about yourself that helped you become successful and deal with
hard times?
Four words: 积极人生. I have a lot of ups and downs in my life,
my career. I had failed, but more success than failed. I fell down and woke up.
Just like that. Everyone failed before. I did failed. But I picked up myself
and correct myself and I make sure I don’t fail again.
So, next.
What event in your life that truly tested your capability?
When you got no money. You know if you worked
hard, you will get the money you need. That’s all. No money can change a
person.
What did
you learnt about yourself after dealing with that event?
That I had to work harder than others. That I
had to work smarter than others. I have to look for opportunities and I have to
do differently than others, because everyone also did what I did. And I have to
do more, of course there are people who did more than me.
Okay, this
one maybe need to think a bit. What event most shaped your life?
Hmm…Because there is no mountain behind me,
there is no food ready in front of me, I’m all by myself. Being poor. Being
deprived from anything. But being an attitude and mentality of积极人生, when I do things I like, I’m very
productive. Without fail for months, shifting 20 feet of newspapers and I
flipped every page for military related info and cut it down. I read every
page, every article written by this lady named Li Ji Hui. I still remembered
her name.
Okay, this
is more about children’s story lah. What do you remember each of us when we
were born?
I remembered the most when HengJee started
learning to crawl. One of the best thing to do was to chase him on the floor
and biting his buttocks. That was the best, memorable moments. Then come to
PeiEr, is the best she cannot walk. Coming home, the best thing to do was
holding you. When you can walk, the fun is slightly less because you have a lot
of strong characters. That’s why that makes me predict that when you are 17,
you are going to give me a lot of troubles. And that was video-ed.
Hmm, okay.
So next, were you scared to be a parent?
Nah, there is no scared in my dictionary
except for cockroach.
How would
you describe your approach to parenting?
Very practical. No luxuries and give the
worst to the children. Materialistically speaking, I mean. Of course that means
health and security have to give the best. You guys got the best food, best
milk, and best nutrition. And most expensive too. But when it comes to
materials, give the worst. So that kids will realized that when you don’t get
the things you want, you have to go get it with your own efforts. Things don’t
fall from the sky. That’s my parenting philosophy. I don’t care how rich you
are, but always give the worst in terms of material, of course within the
framework of health, comfort and security. Not to the point you get sick and go
to the hospital that’s for sure. No luxuries as in no PlayStation 1, like that
time Heng Jee used to ask for it when he was in primary school, until today he
still didn’t get it.
Okay, when
you think about Heng Jee, how would you describe him?
Very nice boy. Two words if you believe in
God: God’s sent.
Haha, then
what did you think about me~?!
You are outgoing, you have strong opinions
and characters, which is a good point. You are creative. But you are impatient
and you can’t tolerate that you didn’t get the things you want. If you want
something, you will ensure that you will get it, even though it is an illegal
method. By outlook, you are a very cute girl, a Daddy’s girl when you are
small.
Then now
leh.
Still the same lah, less the cute factors of
course. You may not aware this but there did not goes a day by where I did not
kissed you.
Awww, so
sweet.
You can ask Mommy. Every day I will ensure I
got kiss you one. Heng Jee will get beaten and get bitten once a while. My
philosophy of raising kid is guy will get tough, I treat guy tough. You
wouldn’t like me if you’re a guy, I won’t treat you softly. But for girls, I do
have soft spots and it’s always my life wanting to have a younger sister. I
always wanted to have one, but I never had it, which is why I had a lot of
girlfriends. But I treated them as my younger sister, which they treated me as
their boyfriend instead. I don’t want that because I was too matured for my age
because of my background.
So, what
message did you want to give to Heng Jee that you always wanted him to keep in
mind?
Just积极人生. Do more than others, do better than others, more so now in this era.
My time less competitive, so if you are not vigilant, you will be in trouble.
When you are in comfort zone for some time, the moment you lose the comfort,
you will panic. When you have it, you better take good care of it. This is a
message for both of you, not just Heng Jee. We can be comfortable now, how you
know 10 years later Malaysia economy crash and the people in riot? We can be in
the situation like Greece, and what are you gonna do? That’s why while you are
in a comfort zone, take the time to improve and learn. Buck up for unexpected
and failure. I won’t be surprise if Heng Jee fail a semester, I might even say
that was expected. Of course, we try to keep it from happening but if it
happen, it happened. I had reached the stage where I’m very open minded, if I
don’t work, I don’t work. Like the status I put in my Whatsapp currently: ‘I’d
rather be hated for who I am, than be loved for who I am not’. If I don’t get a
Ferrari, that’s okay. In fact, if I have a Ferrari, I would be even more
worried. The best is none of us get heart attack or cancer tomorrow. Look at
your mom, she is now experiencing high blood pressure, it’s time to do
something. Better don’t intimidate her and tolerate more. You and I have to
learn more tolerance already. The signs of health issues are arising in me and
mommy. Yeah, so what’s your next questions?
If you
think about mommy, how would you describe her?
Very family. She has more good points than
bad points, very family – oriented which both of you must learn from her. A
very traditional girl, but being naïve and always want to be caccooned in her
comfort zone. This is against to my principle of 积极人生, I can’t really accept it. But she is a good
wife, not perfect, but I must say, she is the best wife anyone can ask for. No
one is perfect, I’m not a perfect husband either, but she still accepts who I
am and I’m grateful of that. Before I graduated from UKM, my good friend Lim
Beng Hock said this sentence to me, “You are not graduating with a degree; you
are graduating with this girl”. What a compliment to her, man. “The most
precious thing after you graduate from UKM is this girl, not that piece of
certificate.” He knew Mommy more than me at that time, because they were in
Buddhist Association together a lot.
Lim Beng Hock is a very good friend. We
hardly seen each other, we do exchange on Facebook a few times. The other
friend even worse, we never met each other, he is from GSK, Yao Kim Fah. We had
forged a great friendship, we don’t need to see or talk to each other every
day. If one of them were to call me for help, I will not hesitate. If I need to
fly to Sabah or Melaka to help, I will book the next flight ticket. I believe
likewise if I ever needed help.
So, okay.
What message do you want to give to mommy and want her to keep in mind?
Just be healthy.
I see, now
this onwards will be more based on your opinions. What do you think the world
need most right now? Peace, harmony, more wars, stock crash, anything. (2015)
The world need a leader like Nelson Mandela,
of course not from a small country. This person has to come from the Top 10
countries, meaning with big powers, such as America, Britain, French, China,
Japan, etc. Somebody who has the stature of Nelson Mandela. But we didn’t see
it, because the world has become in such a way that it becomes too profit –
oriented. Haha, I feel like I’m spreading idealism. But too bad lor, this is
fact. Every one now just want to gain something, practically zero want to give
something. The best golden era of Malaysia was in the 80s and 90s. Now the
world has become so capitalism – oriented, even China is transitioning into
something like that. China is the last one that preserved non – capitalism, but
they stil collapsed. With that, China as a whole has become very profit –
orientated. Japan and America is struggling. America is bogged down with
terrorism issue, they are going to be having to deal with it for maybe the next
10 presidents. But these are too big of an issue for us to handle, we ourselves
have so much big problems, making the world issue becoming a non – issue, in a
way.
Okay, so
what do you think people want most in life?
Different phases of your life you will want
different things. 生老病死,
during these 4 phases and just dissect each phases and you will know what you
want. Simple word: happiness. But the problem is how many people actually work
towards it. The problem is everyone think the only way is money bring
happiness, of course if you have no money then money will bring happiness, but
it’s not the one that determines the whole thing. I want a BMW, but if I have
one, I will want a Lamborghini. There will be no end. Money isn’t ultimate, I
used to think of money only, but then at night, before I sleep, I started
thinking, I have a family. I have two kids and a wife that loved me. I’m happy.
Money doesn’t buy this sort of happiness. Of course you have to work for money
lah, but not all the time, that’s extreme.
Hmm...
okay, so what message do you want to share to your family?
Be safe. That’s all. Our environment doesn’t
allow us to make terrible mistakes anymore. So, whatever you do, think of the
consequences. I don’t want to see you all suffer ma.
So, lastly,
what are you most thankful of?
I don’t really anyone to thank to, to be
honest. I’m not religious, I can’t thank God. Individualistically speaking, I
thanked myself. Thanks to myself for all the decision making I’d made, wrong
and right. I did made near fatal decisions as well. I don’t want to talk about
that. Which it did put us in financial difficulties, but I turned back. That’s
why we were living okay. It was something to do with business venture, not
gambling or anything. This experience… I have to thank it too, because now I
have plenty of experience on turning around a situation. From my first job, I
had observed people’s behaviour and decision making. All bad experiences are
precious, the process of fail to success is useful. People don’t change in a
click like that. Something have to happen. With how life is now, I guess I have
to start slowing down. Slow down my temper, my patience and all. I have to move
away from unhappiness elements. What others think of me now, I don’t bother
anymore. Old already ma. I’m not asking you to be number one in the class, but
what I asked you is to learn the experience. Every mistakes, every small success.
I want you to learn it and appreciate it. Google is everywhere, make use of it.
Be thankful to Google.
Sorry for the damn long post :)
Sorry for the damn long post :)
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