Tiffany

The people you meet everyday, they all have different behaviors and attitudes. The way they walk, talk, think, doing homework, treating others… Behavior and attitude basically sum up the way a person live their life.

Committing one’s self in many relationship – be it friendship, colleague, hi – bye friends, Facebook friends, neighbor, whatever, it doesn't matter, I find it hard to maintain all these relations. There will be definitely a time when one of your contacts get mad at you for a small mistake you did. Though it’s a small mistake, but to them, it might mean a big issue. There will be definitely a time when you can’t stand the weird behavior of someone, and you just go on tolerating and tolerating, until you burst.

And you can’t please everyone you met. Your mom loves you the most but you can’t please your mom all the time too. She can nag you about something you had done 5 years ago because of your horrible attitude in handling something and that makes you mad and her, madder. In another way of saying, even the person who loves you like nobody ever can will find that negative behavior of yours annoying.

Making friends are awesome and fun, getting to know people are great too. You are bound to learn something new from them, every day. The experience are not the same as yours; they could have a terrible incident happened to them when they’re young, and that’s why they started to think like that.  Or maybe, their living conditions are different than yours. They can be way richer than you, and spend like crazy. But what if they does it as a way to feel happy? You never know.

So, in a nut shell, everyone’s different. Everyone have a different behavior or attitude in everything. In the other hand, it also means that everyone have their good and bad points.

But, does that mean they will only be like who they are today?

For example, the guy you met the other day is a hella lazy. He procrastinate a lot and doesn't like doing work. Those kind of laziness that he can’t wake up early in the morning just to catch a 9am class. But is he aware of it?

Well, of course he is. He can be not aware of it, and you can always tell him as soon as you meet him. If you don’t, it just show that you’re not a good friend after all. But, that’s beside the point. The point here is that he is and should be aware of his wrong doings.

Yes, it doesn't hurt anyone, so why do you even need to care?

Did you realize that people like you just made the world a much terrible place to live in?

Anyway, if a person is aware that his/her daily behavior is disrupting his/her productivity in life, shouldn't that person change it?

It is going to need time and effort, but if there’s a will, there’s a way.

When you’re born, you learn everything from your family. Your parents may have bad behavior like a bad temper, nevertheless, you are going to follow them because you’re still young and you still don’t know how to think for yourself yet.

But things are different right now. You’re older now. You can think. And, the best part? 

You can think for yourself and the people around you already!

 If you have a bad temper, change it. Don’t give yourself and the people around you excuses like, “I’m born this way”, “that’s just me, I can’t change it”, “I’d always been like that”.

No, you are not born that way.

No, that’s not you and you can’t change it.

And no, you had never been like that.

If you have anger issues, find a way or solutions to solve it. Take deep breathes when you are mad. Or maybe, step out from the conversation to let the anger calm down.

Do something about it.

If you have a habit of checking your phone every 5 minutes and the people around you are getting annoyed that you only have a short attention span on human interaction but a millennium attention span on a small LCD screen, do something about it.

Off your phone. Ask your friends to help you out. If your friends asked you to do it yourself, it means it is time to meet new friends. They absolutely don’t deserve you.

If you have a problem for being selfish because god knows why and everyone around hated you for that, take a step out of your comfort zone and try to change it. Bit by bit every day. Empathy a little bit more every day. From your siblings to your parents. From your friends to random strangers.

Everyone appreciate a positive change from anyone around them.

So, if you tell yourself that nobody cares, you’re wrong. Maybe the people around you wouldn't notice the small, minor differences you make every day, but in the long run, there will be a big differences.

Plus, you don’t change yourself to impress people. You change yourself to become a better person.

The quote that goes by, “Stay true to yourself” and “Be who you are” doesn't mean that if you are a terrible person, stay as a terrible person. It just mean be good to yourself.

“Don’t let other change you because they wanted you to change”. 

You are old enough to think whether the change is for a good cause or a bad one. And I believe, there isn't a need to elaborate in that.

Its great that, one day, someone approached you and said, "Hey, you're not like that usual douchebag as you were before!" And, instantly, you find yourself much approachable and happier. Great, isn't it? But it needs a starting point and it doesn't just appear out of thin air.

It appears from you. 

So start today, give it a try. Step out of your comfort zone. Stop giving yourself excuses, admit that you’re wrong and you have to change this terrible attitude of yours. Give it a shot. Great results don’t come immediately, so take your time. And by taking your time doesn't mean that you should be procrastinating and whenever it is time for you to make a decision to change that horrible habit of yours, just do it instead of saying “I’ll do it tomorrow”. 

All the best :)